How to Handle Jealousy

Few things can harm a relationship like jealousy. Jealousy can breed contempt, anger and fear. It also can trigger anxiety and loneliness. Jealousy can impair one's judgment and cloud one's thinking as well. It's no wonder jealousy is referred to as "the green-eyed monster." But like any beast, you can deal with it. If you have any hopes for a successful relationship, you must learn to handle jealousy.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Understand what you are feeling. Jealousy can spark emotions such as fear or anger. Know what's causing you to feel the way you do.
2. Talk about your feelings with your partner. Discuss your jealous feelings and why you might be having them. Reach an agreement with your partner about what might be causing your jealousy.
3. Examine what it is that's making you feel jealous. Be willing to change what are most likely misconceptions. Jealousy is often the result of false beliefs. Beliefs can be changed as long as you are willing to try and handle this situation.
4. Express your feelings, good and bad, at all times. Communication is a key element of handling jealousy.
5. Give yourself time to work through your jealous feelings. It takes time to develop trust in a relationship. Work with your partner to resolve your negative feelings, and together you can handle jealousy and build a strong, positive relationship.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid situations that may cause jealousy. Be truthful and upfront with your partner.
• Make a clear distinction between jealousy and love. They are not the same thing.
• Address any inner problems. Jealousy can often be the result of a person's low self-esteem, for instance. Dealing with inner conflicts can often help to resolve feelings of jealousy.
• Don't get confused between emotions. For instance, don't mistake envy for jealousy, or don't assume that all anger is borne from jealousy.