How to Encourage a Strong Willed Child

The strong willed child often seems to be wrapped in a tough outer shell. One of the most important steps you can take in encouraging the child is to remember they want to be loved and appreciated. There is a tender child inside that tough exterior, one that seeks your respect. Read on to learn how to encourage a strong willed child.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Actively search for things your child is doing right. Compliment your strong willed child on at least one thing they did right, or something they did well on a daily basis. Follow this up with affection and warm words. Make sure your child understands that you are proud of them and interested in what they do and how they handle situations.

2. Give the child as much responsibility as is age appropriate. Don't expect busy work to make them feel good. Assign chores or duties that make them feel special. Offer a challenge to make them feel they are accomplishing something worthwhile.

3. Take an interest in the child. Listen when the child talks during discussions. Make direct eye contact and give yourself to the discussion without letting anything interrupt the flow of the conversation. Talk about what interests the child, not yourself.

4. Surround the child with people who understand and are encouraging to the child, especially adults. Choose adults who engage the child in new and exciting things and help them discover unknown passions. Remember that the strong willed child is a born leader and with the correct instruction and guidance can accomplish great and noble things.