How to Understand a Spouse's Love Language

Everyone has their own emotional love language, which is the way that they feel loved the most. There are five love languages, and determining which one means the most to your spouse, and learning how people who have that love language experience love, is key to a happy marriage.

Instructions

1. Read about the five love languages. They are quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. They are as different as foreign languages are from one another.

2. Determine which love language means the most to you, and have your spouse do the same. Realize that it's your natural inclination to love your spouse in your own love language, since that's what you know. But making your spouse feel loved means learning what actions from you will appeal to them in their own love language. Communicating love can take some effort, but it's well worth the investment.

3. Learn about your spouse's love language, and understand what actions from you will speak most to your spouse. Then make an effort to incorporate things into your lives that you know will make your spouse feel loved. When your spouse understands the love languages and realizes that your actions take some planning and thought on your part (because they don't come naturally to you) it makes the effort even more special to the recipient. They know you are doing it merely because you love them.

Resources

• Learn More about the 5 Love Languages.