How to Tell if a Boyfriend Is Gay

Relationships are full of up and down moments. One day, you may be the love of each other's lives and the next day, you may find your stuff out on the sidewalk. Dealing with a partner who may have affections for the same sex is one of the biggest relationship hurdles of all. Figuring out whether your boyfriend is gay requires a little introspection and a lot of honestly.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

1. Remember the last time you two were intimate. If you can't remember, this could be a warning sign that your boyfriend is gay. If you don't have what it takes to get his engine running, he'll likely withdraw from you, and your sex life will become minimal or nonexistent. Be aware, though, that some gay men go the other way and overcompensate for their sexuality by wanting to have sex with their girlfriends all the time.
2. Pay attention to his mannerisms. If he appears to be effeminate and extra-sensitive to your feelings, it may be a sign that your boyfriend is gay.
3. Look at his grooming habits. If he takes longer in the bathroom than you do to get ready in the morning, that could be a warning sign. Owning lots of different beauty products and being up on the top designer shoes and handbags could mean that he's playing for the other team.
4. Notice if he's vocal about his distaste for gay men. While it seems counterintuitive, many men that are still in the closet become "gay-bashers" as a way of protecting their true identity. So, if your boyfriend is quick to tell everyone around him that he isn't gay, that very well may mean that he is.

Tips & Warnings

• The most important thing you can do to tell whether your boyfriend is gay or not is to ask him. Approach him in a non-judgemental way and give him the opportunity to tell you how he really feels. Let him know that if he is, you will support him 100 percent in whatever decision he makes. Then be prepared for his answer.
• There are many gay men that show no outwards signs of being homosexual. If you still have doubts, the most important thing you can do is to talk to him and be honest with one another.