Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step1
When you receive an invitation to a wedding, make sure to RSVP before the due date. The bride and groom need to know how many guests are attending so they can tell the caterer the correct number.
If you have previously RSVP'd and can no longer attend, make sure to let the couple know that you will no longer be attending.
If you said you were bringing a guest and they can no longer attend, make sure to update your RSVP.
Step2
If you are not 100% sure if children are welcome to attend, make sure to ask the bride or groom or another member of the wedding party or family. A lot more couples are having adults only weddings. You should honor this request and not feel bad if your child isn't invited.
Traditionally, only the people named on the envelope are the ones invited to the wedding.
Step3
If the bride and groom went to the trouble of making table assignments, you should honor them. They chose to put you at a certain table for a reason. You will have the opportunity to move around and sit by other friends after dinner is over and the dancing starts.
Step4
If you are single, it is good manners to go out for the bouquet toss or the garter toss. The bride and groom were forced to do it when they were single. You will have the opportunity to do the same to your single friends one day.
Step5
It is good manners to give some type of gift to the bride and groom. It doesn't have to be extravagant, but a little something is appreciated. If they have a registry, it is good to choose something from it if you don't have other creative ideas.
If possible, send the gift to the home of the bride and groom or the address specified on the registry. This helps them avoid hauling a bunch of packages home from the reception site.
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GreenGardenChic said
on 6/5/2008 Good advise, especially the RSVPing. Having to call and hunt people down is annoying.