How to Be Polite Around Children

While many adults are familiar with the ways in which children should act around their elders, they may not consider the importance of being polite to children. Interacting with children requires an entirely different set of manners and behaviors, and they are worth learning.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Talk to children as equals, avoiding "baby talk" or condescending language. Children are quite able to understand conversation at a higher level, and may simply need you to explain a few bigger words in order to keep up. Talking to them on an equal level makes them feel respected and involved in the conversation. Also be conscientious of children when they speak, express interest in their ideas and opinions, and respect them as individuals.
2. Practice patience around children. Kids vary quite a bit in their abilities to concentrate, sit still, ask questions politely and behave around adults. Do not dismiss a child because she wiggles a bit in her seat or forgets to say "excuse me" when interrupting a conversation. By allowing her a little leeway and encouraging good behavior, you'll have a much better time overall than if you get frustrated or dismiss the child.
3. Focus on good behavior and etiquette when possible, instead of harping on the bad. By encouraging and praising proper manners, respect and actions, you will be rewarded with more polite conversation, a better behaved child in your presence and a happier relationship with the child.
4. Talk to the child's parents about the way they usually interact with the child so you do not mistakenly break any rules for the parents or child. Respect their decisions with regard to language, behavior or responsibilities in the home. For example, if a child is not permitted to watch more than an hour of television each day, be respectful and leave the television off when visiting the family or watching the child. Even if you disagree with a certain style of parenting, you must respect it when around the child.
5. Sometimes, it can be hard to relate to little ones, or even older children and teenagers. Asking how school is going will not necessarily be a great conversation starter. Instead, try to find out more about the child's interests. Ask about favorite activities, books, or music they may like. Even if you aren't familiar with these favorites, the child will appreciate the discussion and your genuine interest.
6. Never take out frustration or anger on a child, physically or verbally, but instead excuse yourself until you have time to cool off. If necessary, tell the parents that you regretfully must leave and discuss any inappropriate behavior on the child's part at a better time. It is not up to you to parent another person's child, and parents do not always appreciate being told about a child's misbehavior. However, you should bring any bad manners to light if you encounter the child's parents.
7. Keep your language appropriate. Swearing, lewd language and jokes, racist comments or inappropriate words should be avoided in the presence of children.