How to do little things to keep that spark alive

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They are a breed in extinction!

They are so few that if we do not come to the rescue they will be completely annihilated -probably by the time you get done reading this article! I am talking about the lucky couples who love and lust each other, who day after day, year after year manage to keep that spark alive.

Are they really so scarce or do they just do something different? Do they know a deep dark secret, no-one told us?

Or, could it be, and this is my theory: They just get it. They just decided that from that day forward, they were going to do whatever it took to make their other half the happiest person alive ... and when that is your mission statement, just imagine the outcome.

Well, you're in luck, because I have spent my life around people who are in love and can't get enough of each other. And as Anthony Robbins (my favorite speaker in the world, by the way) says: success leaves clues. You do not have to re-invent the wheel or anything else for that matter, just look around you and model the behavior patterns of those succeeding in the area your wish to change, and voila, you found yourself a magic formula.

Well in case you have no role models around at the moment ... and sometimes it just takes a little something to spark your own creativity, I will give you a guide of simple things you can do to ignite that passion, and well let me know where it takes you, I always want to hear a good love story!

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Passion (you cannot rekindle a fire where there has never been a spark)
A little bit of time
A little bit of playfulness
A little bit of money

Step 1

post it note love!

A NOTE A DAY

Buy a pad of sticky notes (I do not want to do an advertsiement for post it notes here, but they are my preferred ones).
Write a couple and keep them on hand and as your better half leaves for the office, slip one in his/her briefcase, shirt pocket or purse.

What to write on the notes? how about:

I can't wait to see you tonight!
I will be thinking about you all day!
As you read this note, I will be preparing myself for you!

Get the idea? Come on, I know you can get creative.
The simplest of notes will work wonders and start getting your significant other thinking and daydreaming about you.
Step 2

quail-in-rose-petal sauce recipe

PETALS...LOTS OF PETALS!

Petals make any woman, (even a man for that matter) go nuts.
Rose petals have forever been a symbol of love and passion, and they ooze a scent that tantalizes your senses.
So I ask, if something so simple is so romantic, why not use it?

How?
Here are just a few ways you can use petals...
by the way, florists will sell you bags of them or art supplies stores have a silk version- just as sexy, and reusable! The scent? not a problem -just get a rose spray and spritz it on.

* On top of ceiling fans and turn the fan on as they walk in (on low)

* Bring some to a restaurant and put them on the table

* Inside an envelope with a card or letter

* Floating in a bowl of water - with or without floating candles

* Placed in the book your sweetheart is reading

* Surrounding your mate with petals while he or she is sleeping

* In a crock pot with a little water for a beautiful smell as they walk in, the perfect preamble for a romantic???

(Remember the movie - Like Water for Chocolate? How about that audacious recipe for quail-in-rose-petal sauce, that had every one sweating at the dinner table? Well, talking about roses just ignited that memory! I can just smell and taste it, ooh la la, the delicateness of love entering your body through every sense is just too powerful.
Step 3

candles add a romantic touch

CANDLES

When matched up with step 2 (rose petals) you are in for the romantic ride of your life!
There is just something about a candle lit room that sets the atmosphere for romance...so go ahead set a beautiful table, two placemats, matching napkins and all, and bring dinner (Burger King if you must). But watch the mood lighten, the smile comes, and the night evolves into something special, all it takes is a little something!

Now for those who really want to bring on the romance...try a buying gourmet food from his/her favorite restaurant, or even cooking it yourself, there is no better way to say I love you, that with food.

Tip: get them what they like, in the colors they like...tonight is all about pleasing them, not you!
Step 4

A MASSAGE:

Yes! I am not kidding, Do you want to have the most passionate sex of your life? Start our with a full bosy massge, but not the 5 minute (then you are all over them kind) this is the kind that will make them want you, but you grab their arms and keep on massaging, it's all about hightening senses.
Do you dare? Get a simple Body oil (Neutrogena has one that is a light sesame formula, it smells great and warms the body and hands). best of all you can get it anywhere.

By the way, remember the sticky note?
write one in the morning, saying:

Present this tonight at dinner and recieve a full body massage and...!
You will have them drooling all day.
Step 5

romance VI (google images)

DATE NIGHT

The problem with most couple nowadays is the stress tha kids, the inlaws, you name it...it gets in the way of love and romance in a couple.

All the couples I know that truly love and adore each other have a date night, they make it a point to reserve one night a week (not a year!) for each other, and nothing gets in the way of date night. NOTHING!

I once knocked on the door of my parents bedroom during date night and mom yelled out, you better be bleeding to death! So I ran off.

Get it?

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on 2/2/2009 its all about the sex...no matter what anyone says...why do women or men cheat...for that euphoria feeling you get when someone new pays attention to you..with a slight touch he can send shivers up your spine...you feel beautiful, special, and all that...and for a man..he feels wanted and not taken for granted..

see its hard to maintain that initial feeling of lust and love..but for me...its been about 15 years and I am 33 so mind you I went from young girl to a woman in her prime..we went through all stages..I even must admit that I was sooo tempted to cheat...but I came to my senses..thank God because I could have lost everything..we have 4 children together and nothing is more important than that....

anyways....you need to keep that spark..you need to treat your husband like another woman will if they had just met..you know what I mean..

on 2/2/2009 the way you would treat each other if you just started dating..also...look good...fat or skinny it doesnt matter..just look sexy a few times a week...
and most importantly....SEX...GREAT SEX....ALOT OF GREAT SEX..LOL..4real!!! WITH TOYS...LOTS AND LOTS OF ADULT TOYS....IT WORKS..YOU WILL LOVE IT..HE WILL LOVE IT...

WWW.KEEPTHATSPARK.COM

If you have some toys already and their old...throw those out and buy the new interesting stuff...
good luck...and please your partner in bed....OR SOMEONE ELSE WILL...sounds harsh...but its reality...