How to Talk Sexual History With a Boyfriend

Having a new relationship can be a joyous time in your life. However, it can often bring a lot of doubt as well. Having sex is a big step of any relationship, but you should discuss things such as sexual history at some point. Use these steps to help guide you through the tough subject of sexual history when talking to your boyfriend.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Create a comfortable setting. This should be someplace private, where you won't be interrupted. To make the conversation non-threatening it helps to hold hands or touch legs.

2. Clarify how much detail you are comfortable sharing with each other. Topics could include the number of sexual partners, what STDs you have been tested for and what STDs past partners you have had (that you know of).

3. Agree to be honest about the topics you'll discuss, because it is likely the truth will come out eventually. Be prepared for the fact you may hear things you're unhappy or uncomfortable about.

4. Listen to what your boyfriend is saying. Do not interrupt him. Ask questions if you have them when he pauses.

5. Delay your reactions so you do not jump to conclusions. Give yourself time to process what he says and make sure you have all the information before you make inaccurate assumptions. Understand his feelings about the topic.

6. Move forward together. Agree that what has past is over and enjoy the closeness having this discussion has brought to your relationship.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't be judgmental about what your boyfriend tells you. The point is to get information you asked for, and it's not up to you to decide what is right and wrong about a person's sexual history.