How to Mingle at a Party

For some, mingling at a party comes easily. For others, it invokes utter, paralyzing fear. If you belong in the latter category, try to relax, take a deep breath and realize that many others feel just as you do. Mingling is an art, but it can be learned. Read these steps to ease your fears and mingle at your next party.

Instructions

1. Leave home with a good attitude. You're just going out to have fun, not engage in armed conflict. Try to imagine yourself brimming with confidence and facing your fear.

2. Look around the party for a person or group that appears interesting. It may be easier to begin with someone who's alone, if she seems approachable.

3. Break off from a friend who came with you to the party, unless he doesn't know anyone either. Mingling is more successful when done alone.

4. Initiate conversation by introducing yourself. Be honest. If you don't know anyone else at the party, admit it with a comfortable laugh. Ask people how they know the hostess as another icebreaker. You may have a common friend.

5. Circulate, rather than sticking to one person. The idea is to meet people.

6. Exude confidence in the way you speak and carry yourself. Partygoers react well to people who seem comfortable with themselves and the situation.

Tips & Warnings

• The "Art of Mingling" by Jeanne Martinet is a must read for any aspiring mingler.

• If you're feeling too shy to strike up a conversation with a stranger, try standing near a group. They may notice you and invite you into their conversation.

• Don't sit down at a party. This abruptly ends the chance to mingle.