How to Marry Yourself

When my single girlfriends wail that "there are no good men out there," I suggest that before they think about serious relationships and marriage, they first marry themselves in order to find true love.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Open heart
• Self love
• A willingness to throw out old habits and self loathing

1. Set Your Intention. Work out what you want to achieve by marrying yourself. For example, "a lifelong commitment from a partner in a relationship that exudes happiness at every turn." Before you can expect this commitment from someone else, you must first promise that you will do everything in your power to give this to yourself, every day.

2. Throw Out Self Loathing. Looking in the mirror and criticising your imperfections? Laughing off compliments and dismissing nods to your brilliance? Flying under the radar so your super-stardom goes unnoticed? These are classic signs that you have a degree of self-loathing. Self-loathing only serves to block you from finding happiness within. When you radiate unhappiness, you attract unhappy people. Unhappy people are generally commitment-phobes. So get over yourself girl, and repeat after me: "Self-loathing is for suckers."

3. See Yourself As Goddess. Begin to notice your perfections when you look in the mirror. Receive compliments as graciously and copiously as you give them. Say "yes, yes, YES" a lot, with revellious and delightful energy. Practice shameless acts of joy and master joyous acts of shame. Affirm yourself daily with delicious words including "magical, mystical, sparkling, juicy, ethereal, beauty, intuitive, divine." When you see yourself as Goddess, this is the gorgeous energy you radiate and hence, you begin to attract similarly gorgeous people into your life.

4. Be Your Own Best Friend. Tell yourself jokes. Spoil yourself rotten. Keep yourself entertained by doing what YOU want to do. Write down a promise to self that you will "never put baby in the corner." Flick "friends" that dare to support habits of self-loathing. Become a magnet to new friends that are a reflection of your perfection.

5. Create Your Day. Now that you are your own little solar system and the brightest little star at the centre of your own cosmos, it is time to invite family and friends who love you as much as you love yourself, and to help you celebrate your rocking divinity. Picture your perfect ceremony in your head, see the smiling faces of your friends as they witness your joy, play with wedding vows until you have the perfect expression of your perfect self.

6. Let the Party Begin. Set the date, find your venue, send out invitations, and let the party of self-love begin.

Tips & Warnings

• Go overboard with fun and self-love.
• Do not marry yourself if you hear voices in your head that serve to sabotage your intentions for true, everlasting, undying, fulfilling, rip-roaring LOVE.

Resources

• There are tons of resources for connecting with your inner goddess here

[ashfeather]

on 6/1/2009 WOW! 5*

[garna]

on 3/28/2009 One of the best articles I've read.

[dannyguitar]

on 10/27/2008 I came here to find out information on how to literally *marry myself* but I can't seem to find a priest willing to do just that... I proposed to myself but I'm still thinking about it... do you think I may have done it too soon?

Great article! I'm a guy, but yeah... I'm reaallllyy tryin' to find information on how to tie the knot with myself.

[Sallywhoa]

on 4/1/2008 Great article... its really hard to be yourself and love yourself in today's world. I like the concept of marrying yourself first... that puts it into perspective. I am going to do it today!