How to Ask for a Divorce

Whether because of infidelity, physical or emotional violence, or a disappearing love, there may come a point where you feel it is appropriate to ask for a divorce. It may not be an easy thing to do, but it doesn't have to be any more painful than necessary.

Difficulty:

Moderate

Instructions

1. Respect your spouse's feelings. There is a history between the two of you, and whether or not your love for them is gone, you should care about their feelings enough to be kind. Avoid triggering their emotional responses by being straightforward.

2. Prepare for guilt. This may not necessarily come from your spouse. The people close to you, friends, family co-workers, may have some emotional reactions to your split. They may try to make you feel guilt about being the one to ask for divorce. Keep in mind that it is your life, and this is your way to make a new start.

3. Use "we" statements. By stating that you both as a couple are having problems with communication you are not laying blame on your spouse. When you decide to ask for a divorce, you need to be as diplomatic as possible in the talk.

4. Go to a public place. If you fear retribution or yelling, go to a secluded but public place. This will give you privacy to talk things through, but will hinder any heated arguments.

5. Be confident. No matter what the reaction to your statement, remain strong. When you ask for a divorce you may not be able to determine before hand what the reaction will be. Your spouse can be either very understanding, having felt the same way, or become very angry or emotional. Stand your ground, and make sure that you know exactly what you want to convey in the initial conversation.