How to Deal With a Child's Selective Mutism

Selective mutism is when a child doesn't speak in certain situations, commonly at school or in other social settings. It's a complex disorder and a symptom of anxiety. It's not just a discomfort like you might feel before making a speech. Your child is actually afraid to speak. Here's how to deal with this problem.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Educate teachers and other family members about selective mutism. Explain that your child isn't insulting them. She isn't autistic or exhibiting odd behavior. Make them understand that she's really scared to talk.
2. Get counseling as soon as you suspect your child has selective mutism. Make sure the therapist has experience in dealing with this problem, because inappropriate therapies will only make it worse.
3. Create a nurturing environment at home for your child. Make him feel safe to talk about anything he wants without being ridiculed. Take everything he says seriously.
4. Talk to your child's teachers and therapist about setting communication goals. By working together, you can help your child become more comfortable as he works through his anxiety over social situations.
5. Use desensitization techniques for school and playground settings. Stage classes where only you and the teacher are present. Visit playgrounds with him when there's no one else around.
6. Role-play situations that are difficult for your child. Make them realistic but nonthreatening. Build up to conflicts and explain to your child how she can get through them without something bad happening.
7. Encourage your child to tell stories. Start with people she's comfortable with and gradually expand her audience. The excitement of telling a story she created may help her forget her reluctance to speak.

Tips & Warnings

• Selective mutism is overcome by helping your child feel relaxed in social situations that were previously threatening.
• Encourage creativity and activities your child excels at to boost her self-esteem.
• Never pressure a child to speak no matter how embarrassed you feel.