Things You'll Need:
- Patience
- Affection
- Limitations
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Step 1
Make a decision--is this relationship worth all the effort. A clingy boyfriend or girlfriend is high maintenance, and probably always will be, so understand that. If the answer is no, your journey ends here. If yes, continue to the next step.
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Step 2
Communicate with your clingy boyfriend or girlfriend. Give he/she a chance to change their behavior by telling them about what they are doing and how it negatively affects you and the relationship. Don't expect he/she to read your mind and to get upset when they can't.
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Step 3
Give lots of love, attention and compliments when you are with your boyfriend or girlfriend. A clingy person is typically an insecure person and needs to feel like they are the center of your world to feel loved. Be aware that your boyfriend or girlfriend could be bringing a lot of emotional baggage into the relationship from past hurts. Be sensitive to that by reaffirming your love regularly.
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Step 4
Encourage your boyfriend or girlfriend to go out with friends without you. At first, these should be times when you will be doing nothing at home. He/she won't be worried about you and can enjoy themselves while getting used to doing things without you--and without it being too stressful.
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Step 5
Limit phone conversations. It's easier to end conversations when you are the one to initiate them, so be the first to call he/she. Remember, you don't have to answer the phone just because it is ringing.
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Step 6
Set date nights and limit them to once or twice a week. You don't have to be with your boyfriend or girlfriend every spare minute. Spending all your time with your partner will encourage their clingy behavior.
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Step 7
Take a break or sever the relationship completely if the above methods lead to anger and abuse from your clingy boyfriend or girlfriend. If you discover that this person is too needy and you will never be able to fill all their needs no matter how hard you try, it is time to end it. Be the bigger person, and spare yourself future guilt by breaking up with tact and not out of anger.
Comments
yulli said
on 7/6/2009 He will make your life a misery. His behaviour is actually a sign that he has no respect for what makes you happy and the people in your life. By pulling you away he is thinking only of himself and how you being with him makes him feel good. Someone who truely cares wants to see you happy in every aspect of your life and will not limit all your happy moments to only the times you are with him.
satchel11 said
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1luv1heart said
on 10/25/2008 I had a needy boyfriend for 3 years and let me tell you...it isn't worth it. I don't regret staying in it because I loved him so much that it was my decision to stay and make it work. But he is needy and always will be. It's not worth giving up your friends, feeling guilty and resentful. Life is short and once you choose to have a healthier relationship with yourself and others, you will make the right decision. Breaking up with him was the best thing I could have done because we are still friends and dating different people and it's interesting how much healthier our friendship is! Now I'm in a healthier relationship with a person who doesn't need to be with me every day and call me every hour or so...it's nice to be with someone who is confident and how much more confident I feel about myself!
001robert001 said
on 6/4/2008 hey i have a clingy boyfriend and like i get alot of attention and alot alot of calls from him and like i like the attention in all but he is takeing me away from my firends and everytime i try to give them hugs or do anything when he is around he pulls me away and like i really don know what to do because i love my friends alot but i like him but i dont no how to overcome how clingy he is...