How to Avoid Being a Bridezilla

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By eHow Contributing Writer

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It seems that the complimentary term, "blushing bride" has been replaced with the far less flattering, "bridezilla." It is possible to plan a wedding without turning into this mythical creature.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Step 1

Approach wedding planning with a sound mind and realistic expectations. Try to keep a realistic vision for your big day and be prepared for setbacks and disappointments.
Step 2

Schedule date nights with your fiance and fun gatherings with your friends. Try to keep the conversation limited to non-wedding matters.
Step 3

Avoid the Bridezilla mantra, "this is your day." Despite what wedding planners, florists, magazines and other industry types tell you, this is not just your day. The day also belongs to friends, family and your fiance.
Step 4

Refrain from reading the multitude of bridal magazines. Bridal literature will only complicate your vision and take you off track.
Step 5

Focus on your marriage and not just the wedding. Remember what this sacred event is all about. On your 20th anniversary, you're going to be celebrating what a wonderful spouse you have; not lamenting the fact that it rained on your wedding day.

Tips & Warnings

Know that some things are beyond your control. Your wedding gown may turn out more ivory than off white, your bridesmaids may not all look great in strapless dresses and finally, it can always rain on your wedding day. Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst. Once it's all said and done, you'll realize how little these small setbacks mattered.
Remember you aren't the only girl planning her wedding. For every bride choosing her flowers, there are a million more out there doing the same thing. While this is a very special time in your life, don't expect the world to stop in honor of your impending nuptials.
Keep in mind that the more time you spend planning your wedding, the more obsessive you tend to become. Try to keep your engagement period at a year or less.

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Margiede said

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on 8/18/2008 Thank you for this very sound advice. My daughter is slowing turning into a bridezilla and I am trying to stop her before she goes too far. I will email her this article.