How to Deal With Overbearing Neighbors

Neighbors come in all shapes, sizes and personalities. Some of them are blessings in disguise, coming to your rescue when needed and staying away when you need to be alone. Then there are the overbearing neighbors that are always there and don't understand the meaning of privacy. You must learn to set boundaries with your overbearing neighbors and maintain a friendly relationship that does not interfere with your private life.

Instructions

1. Invite your overbearing neighbor to your home. You want to maintain a pleasant relationship with your neighbor, but inviting them allows you to stay in control of when and where you interact.

2. Ask your neighbor to come back at a specified time when they show up unannounced at your home.

3. Talk to your neighbor if they continue intrusive behavior. Explain your need for private time and let them know when you are available to talk.

4. Write your overbearing neighbor a letter if intrusive behavior continues. Sometimes it is easier to understand someone's point of view if it is written down.

5. Put up a privacy fence or close the blinds if you feel your neighbor is becoming too intrusive. If they can't see what you are doing, it makes it much more difficult to interrupt.

Tips & Warnings

• Inviting your overbearing neighbor to a barbecue where other neighbors are present is a good way to let them know they are welcome, but only in a group setting or when they are invited.

• Honesty is always the best way to deal with someone. Your neighbor may be unaware of their behavior, and if you just let them know how you feel, they may change their ways.

• Document any violent or disturbing behavior your neighbor shows toward your family. People can become irate when asked to tone down their behavior and you want to make sure you protect yourself and your family.