How to Reignite Romantic Fireworks
New romance explodes into our lives like fireworks: full of color and noise and all the "Oooos!" and "Ahhhs" of a Fourth of July show. But just as the sparkling sky pinwheels disappear as they sink toward the horizon, romance too--eventually and inevitably--fades. If your relationship resembles a flimsy, charred shell more than the red-hot rocket it once was, fear not. With the right book of romantic matches you can kindle a passionate blaze once again.
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How to Reignite Romantic Fireworks
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Show your sweet side. When the romantic sparks begin to fade, it is common to build emotional walls. Instead of pulling back, playing it cool or acting nonchalant, try softening your heart and letting your partner know that you miss the closeness.
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Put your ego aside. Now is not the time to place blame, keep score or rehash old disagreements.
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Shift the focus away from romance. You cannot force attraction. Give your partner space. Allow your longing for each other to rebuild slowly. Remember: a watched pot will not boil.
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Take action together. Go for a bike ride. Enroll in a cooking class. Pull weeds. Play cards. Doing an activity together-as opposed to watching television or going out to dinner-will get the energy between you flowing in a new direction.
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Zip your lip. Verbal communication is not always the key to closeness. Which do you think is a more effective way to build romance: initiating a conversation about why you no longer have sex or initiating sex? I'd choose the latter.
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Relax into the moment. Keep your mind out the past and away from the future. Enjoy the company that your partner is giving you.
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Repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat. Keeping love alive requires steady care and constant awareness.
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Comments
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Amanda Ford
Jun 21, 2009
Hi, pnpo. I do agree with the idea that relationships are best when men and women have distinct roles. Men and women are different, have different strengths and different ways of approaching life, and it is these differences that contribute to that wonderful, magical spark of energy that makes romantic relationship so exciting. Perhaps one of the greatest failings of the feminist movement is that it has made women feel as though they must be the same as men. Women should be celebrated for being women, not for being good and mimicking men. That being said, women are EQUAL to men and should be treated with equal respect. A woman's way of approaching life, a woman's ideas, a woman's body should be treated with utmost respect and reverence. I assure you that love and romance will not thrive in a household where respect is not given by both parties, by both the man and the woman. -
pnpo
Jun 21, 2009
You never have to 'reignite' the romance in a marriage if you get things straight on the front-end. A woman's place is beside her man, period. The man is the dominant force, and the woman is the submissive. Once you know your place, everything falls in line. Woman, know your place, and relish in it. The fire will always burn long and bright. And, by the way, I need some biscuits, get in that kitchen.
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Tricia Goss
Jan 20, 2009
My husband and I are celebrating our 17th anniversary this week, and it takes work, work, work. Love your ideas!!
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Tricia Goss
Jan 20, 2009
My husband and I are celebrating our 17th anniversary this week, and it takes work, work, work. Love your ideas!!
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Amy Laine
May 16, 2008
This is defiantly going into my favorites. Thanks again for great articles.
