How to Communicate With an Estranged Child

The relationship between a child and a parent is pivotal for the child's emotional development, sense of individuality and self worth. When there is a gap in this sacred bond due for any reason, you must reestablish the relationship as soon as possible. Follow these steps.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Talk with your former spouse or the caretaker of the child to understand what mode of communication the child prefers. Check with your child to see if he feels alright about meeting in person or communicating through emails. Respect the child's feelings and give him the space he needs.
2. Have an open and honest interaction to identify your child's expectations of you. Listen to understand how the estrangement has affected the child and voice your interest in reestablishing the relationship.
3. Allow the child to show their anger or rejection. Respect their space but do not stop showing that you care. Sometimes the child needs to pull away to restore trust and overcome their insecurities.
4. Continue to communicate through calls, emails, letters and cards. Show them your love by remembering birthdays, holidays and special occasions. Participate in their school activities and sports on a regular basis.
5. Keep your child's feelings as your top priority. In a divorce situation try not to allow the negative feelings you have for your former spouse to interfere with the bond you have with your child. Remember you are the adult.

Tips & Warnings

• Do not speak ill of the other parent with your child.