How to Avoid Saying I Love You

The prospect of saying "I love you" can strike terror in the hearts of men and women alike. Whether you want to avoid saying the three ominous words from fear of commitment or fear of rejection, the repulsion is equally strong and demands a good Plan B solution. Here are some tips on how to avoid saying-well, you know.

Instructions

1. Use enthusiastic compliments in place of saying "I love you." If you want to express deep appreciation or attraction, express just that and nothing more. Try compliments like "You're so great" or "I've never met anyone like you before" to say something sweet without committing to the L-word.

2. Switch to avoidance mode If someone says they love you. There are many ways to deflect and distract. Begin with silence: stare into your mate's eyes and don't say anything, just let your eyes do the talking. Bear in mind that what your eyes say is their own opinion and you take no responsibility for any claims they might make.

3. Get physical with a big hug or a passionate kiss. This is the ace up your sleeve, so don't use it too often. But an expression of physical affection will help keep your mouth busy while drastically changing the subject. As mentioned, overusing this tactic will arouse suspicion, so break it out only in a real emergency.

4. Have the conversation. If you really start to get desperate for solutions about saying "I love you," ask your partner if you can speak honestly for a moment. Mention that you "care deeply" about him or her but are feeling a little "overwhelmed and confused" by everything. Make sure to reassure your partner that you are committed (if you actually are) and enjoy being with him or her more than with others. This should buy you a bit more time.