How to Ask the Right Questions During Speed Dating

Speed dating can be a fun and exciting way to meet potential matches. However, the time constraints it poses can make getting acquainted a bit difficult. With a little know-how, you'll be able to ask questions that will make the most of the seven to 10 minutes you'll have with each date. The following steps will help.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Know what you want. Take the time to do a little soul searching. Be clear about what you're looking for in a mate and what you want from a relationship. Use that information to choose questions that determine your compatibility with a potential match.
2. Prepare a list of questions. Having a list relieves the pressure to generate spontaneous, interesting conversations over and over. The list will put you at ease, and makes an excellent tool to assess the suitability of your dates.
3. Be original. The questions that you ask reveal intimate details about you as well. Each of your potential matches will have several dates during the speed dating event. Common questions will undoubtedly get boring. Stand out by asking questions that are true to you.
4. Mix it up. Though it is perfectly acceptable to ask fairly deep questions while speed dating, you don't want to dampen the mood by launching a philosophical discussion or a political debate. Alternate serious questions with light-hearted ones. Use humor whenever possible.
5. Have fun. Allow conversation to flow naturally. This is not an interrogation. You can use your list of questions to guide conversation, but be flexible. You may not need the listed questions at all.

Tips & Warnings

• Be sure you're able to answer your own questions.
• Make good eye contact.
• Be polite, even when you know you're not compatible with a date.