How to Succeed in Middle School

Middle school is that mysterious place between child and teen, and parenting during these years can be a challenge. Being prepared to give hugs, endure long silences and have firm boundaries can make this time memorable and even fun. Guiding while encouraging independence is the goal.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

1. Discuss your expectations about middle school with your son or daughter and listen to their needs.
2. Set up reasonable and reachable academic goals for the first marking period. Understand this is a time of transition and it may take your child a few weeks to get up to speed in their new middle school environment.
3. Increase your child's responsibility for their own school work by having them use a daily planner.
4. Establish homework routines with a specific time and place for getting work done. Staying organized in middle school is the key to your child's success.
5. Set limits on extra-curricular activities based on their schedule and yours. Don't let studies take a back seat to other things.
6. Keep up bedtime routines, but add a bit of flexibility for your child's own choices.
7. Stay involved by communicating regularly with teachers.
   
   

Tips & Warnings

• At the first sign of trouble, step in. If falling grades or social issues are a problem, schedule an appointment to meet with teachers. Middle schoolers need parental support to make this important step toward adulthood.
• Giving too much freedom during the middle school years can be a big temptation. However, these years can make or break a child's secondary school experience. By giving increased independence when it's earned, a child's sense of self-esteem can really grow. Don't take your hands off too early.