How to Behave at a Funeral

At some point everyone will have to attend a funeral. Paying the proper respect to to the person that passed away is vital. Being uncertain about what is appropriate behavior at a funeral or wake is common. In our effort to say the "perfect thing" we could end up doing what we fear most, causing needless pain. Proper decorum can prevent this uncomfortable situation from occurring.

Instructions

1. Check the obituary or call the funeral home to make certain that the service is not private, whether there will be a viewing, the appropriate time to arrive, and to inquire about where to send flowers or make a donation.

2. Wear conservative clothing, nothing garish or loud. It is not necessary to wear all black clothing. For men a dress shirt, slacks and tie are suitable; for women, a dress is appropriate.

3. Bring prepackaged tissues with you; if you are not prone to crying, the person next to you may need them.

4. Arrive on time or a little early for the funeral or viewing. Turn off all electronic devices including watch alarms and cell phones.

5. Wait patiently and quietly if there is a line to view the body or speak to the family. Greet each family member with kindness and sympathy. Offer your condolences, and if you feel inclined, a hug is appreciated.

6. Sit down in the area behind the reserved seats for the family. Stand when the casket is brought into the room, remain standing until it is in front of the room and the family is seated. Leave the funeral service in a quiet orderly fashion.

7. Turn on your headlights if you are part of the funeral procession to a graveside ceremony.

Tips & Warnings

• If open caskets make you uncomfortable, it is appropriate to skip the funeral and send a card with your condolences.

• Tardiness at a funeral is never appropriate.