How to Get Along With a Father-in-Law

Although Steve Martin's infamous "Father of the Bride" is a family favorite for its screwball antics and happily-ever-after ending, life isn't always that easy (or funny) when you're dealing with a real live father-in-law. Check out these father-in-law friendly tips.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Accept the awkward position a father-in-law is in. Many fathers see their children as prized possessions, often valuing that relationship more than any other in their life. As the newest member of the family, you are a big threat and an even bigger pain. See the world through a father-in-law's eyes.

2. Train yourself to allow for a father-in-law's protective ways. While it is usually the mother-in-law that gets the bad rep for being a meddler, a father-in-law can be equally overbearing and protective. Teach yourself to think of this as a positive. If you embrace these actions, you might just find your father-in-law pulling the same protective moves for you!

3. Score points. Research your father-in-law's favorite hobbies. Become knowledgeable, but not an expert. Involve yourself in what he likes to do. If it's fishing, express interest, but don't become a know-it-all. Your curiosity will flatter him, while your inexperience will provide a great teaching opportunity and a way for the two of you to bond.

4. Think before you speak. Fathers-in-law will be watching and listening. It may be in a more subtle manner than a mother-in-law, but don't let them fool you. If you want to say something, give it a second run-through in your head before it comes out of your mouth.

5. Ask your father-in-law if you can help him out with any projects around the house. This is especially important if you are crashing the in-laws' place for a holiday or a summer vacation. He might be more than happy to put you to work and even happier when he sees that you have a strong work ethic.

6. Resist the temptation to push the relationship. Sometimes men need time to consider things, especially if it's something as important as the relationship he will have with his child's spouse.

Tips & Warnings

• Respect is a very important thing when it comes to fathers and fathers-in-law. Whatever you say or do, keep this in mind.
• Don't ever talk about sex with your father-in-law, especially if you are married to his daughter! You know the saying: Daddy's Little Girl. That doesn't change just because your wife is 33. Just don't do it.

[jimcalendar]

on 4/16/2008 This is terrible advice. What's the point in bowing down to a father in law if he's a complete ****! What then?