How to Ask a Girl Out

Asking a girl out on a date can be anxiety provoking. And even though girls are taking the initiative more often than they used to, it is still widely expected that the guy will do the asking, especially for a first date. So fellas, if you want to increase your chances of her saying "yes," take a few moments to learn how to ask a girl out before you make your move.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Prepare yourself. Know what you are asking her to do and when, and have a couple of backup options. Expect a yes, but prepare yourself for a no.

2. Approach the girl you like. Be straightforward, nice and treat her with respect. Approach her confidently with a smile and your head held up.

3. Engage her in friendly conversation and get to know her a little first. Tell her your name, compliment her and ask her name.

4. Ask her specific questions. Find out what her interests are and expand on any you share with her.

5. Gauge her interest by using verbal and nonverbal queues. If she is averting her eyes or looking for her friends while not responding well to questions, cut your losses and walk away. However if she is actively engaged in the conversation, you're ready for Step 6.

6. Ease into your invitation. After talking for a few minutes, ask something like, “I was thinking of going (somewhere) next weekend, would you like to tag along?” Be specific in your activity and be ready with an alternative activity and date if she says “Some other time, maybe.”

7. Set the date and get her contact information. Follow up with her before the date to verify time and details such as if you will pick her up or meet her there. Have fun!

Tips & Warnings

• The best way to ask a girl out is in person. If that is not possible due to lack of opportunity or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone. Practice what you will say beforehand if you aren’t confident.
• Make sure you are well groomed and dressed nicely. Don’t overdo it, and make sure to suit your own style. And of course check your breath beforehand!
• If the girl says no, don’t take it personally. Continue the conversation for a little longer, say it was nice talking to her and walk away. The fact that you took her rejection well may even pique her interest. If she isn’t a stranger make more of an effort to get to know her. She may grow to like you and you may get another opportunity to ask her out.
• If she said she was busy to your first offer and you get a similar response to your second date option accept it as a rejection and move on. She is probably trying to be nice.
• Think of subjects to discuss on the date in advance. Good ideas include stories about you, things you want to know about her, family and common interests.
• Do not ask a girl out over email or by instant message.
• Do not use a cheesy pickup line!
• Don’t worry about small breaks in conversation as that’s normal. But if it lasts an excessive amount of time, or she is giving you nonverbal queues that she wants out of the conversation, then politely end it.

[iamageniuster]

on 10/24/2008 Very interesting stuff here. 5 stars!

[Haoie]

on 10/24/2008 I don't really see see why you can't ask someone out over email/IM. They're important aspects of social communication, nowadays.

[Fr00ti3]

on 5/5/2008 Hi not sure wether this right place to say this on but, i was wantin advice on a girl. She is my age and shes in my tutar. She is really really hot and really nice, Her anitials are JB. I have known her for about a year now since she moved to our tutor. She is in set 1 for everything, and she hangs around with a certain group of girls who smoke and do daring stuff. She doesnt though, she is a bit out of my leaugue.I asked her out and she said she wanted to be friends. She really likes this guy 1 year older than me though. It was fine for a while but I still had a burning desire for her. Then I wrote her a really long message on Bebo, about how much i want her. She messaged me back, but i havent spoken to her directly for about 5 weeks, I think she thinks I'm a mooron and she allways avoids me. I tred to say sorry to her but i ended up embarrassing my self even more. She is really beautif

[freakguy]

on 8/1/2007 nyek>>> nowadays gurls just go to dates by a txt!!!!1 bwahahahha.... date tau? sure

[chrishobo42]

on 7/20/2007 the worst thing that can happen is that she can kick you square in da nuts