How to Conduct Yourself at a Bat Mitzvah

Attending, hosting or being a Bat Mitzvah girl are all important roles that require a certain amount of decorum. If you know the proper way to conduct yourself at a Bat Mitzvah, you'll make sure you have a great time and avoid embarrassment.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Be a Respectful Guest

1. Don't skip the religious service and only attend the party, as it is truly the most significant part of the Bat Mitzvah.
2. Plan a timely arrival at the synagogue to avoid interrupting the service. Even if the Bat Mitzvah is taking place later in the service, arriving at the beginning is the correct etiquette.
3. Dress yourself appropriately for the synagogue service. Acceptable women's dress includes dresses, skirts or pantsuits, and men should wear a suit or sport jacket with tie. Keep dress conservative with shoulders and knees covered.
4. Respect Jewish traditions by covering your head, if requested. Men may be handed a kippah (skull cap), which is a symbol of respect for the Jewish sanctuary, while women may be asked to wear a lace head covering. You are not required to wear the tallit (prayer shawl), as this is only worn by practicing Jews.
5. Understand the sanctity of the service and act accordingly. Applause and talking during the service is inappropriate, as is taking photos or video. Make sure your cell phone/pager is shut off and refrain from smoking in the synagogue or on the grounds.
6. Pay attention during the service so you can follow along with the movements of the other worshipers. You will need to stand and sit with the others, and they are signs of religious respect for the service.
7. Make sure to congratulate the Bat Mitzvah girl on her achievement in the receiving line or at the party.

Be the Perfect Host

8. Offer your guests a sheet of printed information about the Bar Mitzvah service, its traditions and rituals, to help them learn more about the event they are attending.
9. Receive your guests after the service, making sure they know how to get to the party and when it is happening.
10. Make the rounds to each table at the party and offer thanks for their gracious attendance at the Bat Mitzvah.

Be a Polite Bat Mitzvah Girl

11. Conduct yourself properly and gracefully, as befits someone who is now considered a woman in the Jewish religion.
12. Go to all the guests at the party, not only your friends. Remember that many people have traveled from far away to share in your joy, and they would appreciate your attention.
13. Make a short speech, thanking all your guests again for coming to your Bat Mitzvah.
14. Don't start opening presents at the party. Instead, have someone collect them and wait until you get home to open them.

Tips & Warnings

• Use the same manners and conduct at a Bat Mitzvah that you would at any other type of formal or informal event.

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