How to Handle Wedding Crashers

You've probably seen the movie. You probably even thought the movie was very funny. But one thing that might not be so funny is to have people crash your wedding in real life! After all, your wedding is the day you dreamed of for many, many years. The last thing you want is to have it ruined by some over-zealous, drunk, obnoxious guys who are just looking for booze and bridesmaids. Here are a few tips on how to handle wedding crashers tactfully at your wedding.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Identify the crashers. From across the room you suddenly think you notice a person or some people who just don't belong. Before you have them escorted out and embarrassed, make sure they aren't actually with someone! With the size of weddings today and people usually allowed to invite someone, make sure Aunt Ruby isn't suddenly dating a much younger man. Now if you're the bride or groom this should not even be your issue on the day. This is what your wedding planner or a person in your bridal party is for. Have them discreetly handle the situation.

2. Introduce yourself to the wedding crashers. This gives you or your designated person a shot at double checking to make sure they really weren't invited. Politely introduce yourself, make some small talk and then ask them if they are a friend of the bride or groom. If they can talk specifics, then they just might be a guest. But if they avoid the questions and give general nondescript answers, then you might have a real live wedding crasher just like in the movies!

3. Ask them to leave. Do it politely and discreetly, so that you do not appear threatening or that you are going to embarass them in any way. Maye even suggest that if it were their sister's or a family member's wedding, they wouldn't want wedding crashers either. If they are respectful, they should admit the gag is over and be on their way.

4. Send bigger people. If your interface with them wasn't exactly productive, maybe send several groomsmen. The thought of three or four sizable guys surrounding your wedding crashers should be enough to get them to leave. Again be sure that everyone uses a respectful tone. But this time have one of the groomsmen drop the hint that security is the next and final option.

5. Call security. This is the final recourse and the step that no one wants have to utilize, as no matter how discreet security is, they will cause a minor stir. But, if the wedding crashers are belligerent and stubborn, this may be your only hope. Most hotels and reception halls have security.

Tips & Warnings

• Keep it quiet! The less people involved the better. If you can handle the situation yourself, do it. The bride and groom want to look back on their day with happy memories, not to think about some tool who crashed their reception. You know how family is, once a couple of people know, it spreads like wildfire!

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