How to Date After a Divorce

Going through a divorce is an emotional and confusing time. Dating is the last thing on your mind. However, once the wounds have begun to heal, you may be interested in meeting someone new. Use these simple tips to get through your first dates after a divorce.

Instructions

1. Decide when you are ready to begin dating. The healing process is different for everyone. One person may feel ready after a couple of months following the divorce while others hold off for a couple of years.

2. Look for potential dates. It is up to you on how you want to approach dating. You can look for someone online, ask friends to set you up or hit the local bar to chat up possible dates.

3. Set up something casual for your first date. You want to get to know the person without the pressures of a formal and romantic atmosphere. Suggest coffee or a quick drink after work.

4. Be honest about your marital history, let them know that you are recently divorced. However, it is not necessary (and usually boring) to provide all of the details of the failed marriage.

5. Leave things open ended. A casual goodbye gives you both the opportunity to decide if you want to see each other again. A kiss goodbye is acceptable as well.

6. Have a good attitude throughout the date. Try not to spend the night bashing your ex.

Tips & Warnings

• If you have children, speak to them first before you begin dating. They may have a difficult time seeing you with someone new.

• Don't wait too long to begin dating. Going on fun dates with an interesting person can help your heart heal faster.

• Beware of getting serious with a new person too quickly. It may simply be a rebound relationship.

• Avoid jumping into bed quickly; you may not be ready to take the relationship to that level.