How to Abstain From Sex as a Couple

Abstinence is a challenging way of life in this day and age but the rewards are powerful. A couple must choose together to abstain from sex. Choosing as a couple to abstain from sex can be a challenge though. Together you can conquer this daunting task with perseverance and patience.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A likeminded partner

1. Find a like minded partner who has the same goal of abstinence.

2. Work with each other to avoid sexually tempting situations. Never allow yourselves to be alone for long periods of time, especially at night.

3. Avoid pornography at all costs. Sexual thoughts lead to sexual actions.

4. Kiss briefly. Extended periods of making out can lead to more touching and crossing boundaries.

5. Create a codeword with your partner that means "I am losing control." Work together to immediately stop what you are doing and leave the situation so you can cool things down.

6. Speak about sex only when necessary. Long or frequent conversations about sex can be tempting.

7. Enjoy your wedding night the way it was meant to be enjoyed.

Tips & Warnings

• Read the "Every Mans Battle" from Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker and related books.
• Make out only when you have to be somewhere so you have no time for the situation to escalate.
• Find another couple who is also abstinent and use each other as motivational coaches.
• The less you think about sex the easier it is to remain abstinent. When lustful thoughts arise, change the subject in your mind.
• Do not push the boundaries and try to sleep or live together without having sex.
• Abstinence is a tricky road in this day and age of sexual freedom. Do not take it lightly or you will fail.
• Your partner must feel the same way about sex or you will almost surely fail.
• People will often say they want to be abstinent hoping to change your mind in the heat of the moment. Be cautious at all times.

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[kikkydee]

on 7/13/2009 Can a person who has had sex before....been married before...and decided to abstain untill re-married, be in a succesfull relationship with someone who has never had sex and is also abstaining?

[Soulsearcher83]

on 7/21/2008 Avoiding temptation is a good piece of advice. And definately, people will claim abstinent intent and wait for you to be weak. Thanks for the article.