How to Find a Surrogate Mother

Searching for a surrogate mother can be a frightening task. Picking the woman who will bear your child is not a decision to take lightly, but with proper guidance, couples seeking surrogate mothers can find someone trustworthy to help make them parents.

Things You'll Need

• Computer with Internet access
• Contract
• Attorney

Instructions

1. Search for an appropriate agency or for an independent surrogate. Visit several agencies and independent surrogates in person before you decide what is right for you.

2. Choose an agency that screens their surrogates or an independent surrogate who can provide her medical records. Ask for test results for AIDS, hepatitis B and C, sexually transmitted diseases and rubella. She also should be able to show you results from her most recent pap smear, electrocardiogram and an X-ray of her lungs.

3. Meet with potential surrogates. Take the time to meet as many surrogates as you can. Discuss what you expect from her and what she expects from you. You need to feel completely comfortable with your decision for a surrogate.

4. Pick a surrogate who meets your criteria. Bear in mind that surrogate mothers choose the couples they work with, so narrow your search to a few mothers with whom you would be comfortable.

5. Sign a contract. Have a contract drawn up by an attorney, and make sure everyone involved reads and signs it. Make sure the contract includes everything you discussed, including fees and medical insurance.

Tips & Warnings

• Always ask for personal references from potential surrogate mothers.

• Ask a lot of questions. Have a list of questions for the surrogate prepared before you meet.

• Be wary of situations that make you uncomfortable. There are a lot of dishonest surrogate agencies and independent surrogate mothers, so thoroughly research everyone you're interested in.

• Before signing with an agency, review their fees and compare them to other agencies.