How to Protect Yourself Against Domestic Violence

While the best way to eliminate the threat of domestic violence is to leave an unhealthy relationship, you can take a number of actions to protect yourself while you remain in the situation. The following steps show you how.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Support system
• Safety plan

1. Create an emergency box. Inside, keep an extra set of car and house keys, important documents, some cash and change (for the telephone) and a list of your support contacts. If possible, include a prepaid cell phone or calling card. Hide the box in a safe, handy place.

2. Decide in advance where to go after an episode of domestic violence. Choose somewhere in the house where you can protect yourself from harm. Avoid places with potential weapons, such as the kitchen.

3. Make a list of people you can call after an episode. The best choices are people who will support your decision to leave and who can offer you safety and shelter. Don't forget to call 911.

4. Create a special word or phrase that will alert friends and family that you are in danger and that they should call the police. Choose words that sound normal in everyday conversation, so as not to alert the abuser.

5. Remember the location of your nearest crisis center. Find a crisis or domestic violence center in your area through the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Web site (see the Resources section below), or call them directly at (800) 799-SAFE.

6. File a police report against the perpetrator. This will give you some of the evidence you need to press charges against your abuser.

7. Contact an attorney who specializes in family law as soon as you have reached a safe place. Your attorney can help you obtain a restraining order.

Tips & Warnings

• You have the right to be reasonably protected by law enforcement officials against violence of any kind, including incidents that occur in the home.
• It's normal for victims of domestic violence to experience bouts of depression or flashbacks of violent acts. However, it's important for victims to receive help to overcome the psychological effects of domestic violence. Join a support group in your area or speak with your physician to get the help you need to come to terms with your past and your emotions.

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