How to Find a Men's Shelter

While the majority of cases of domestic violence involve men abusing women, it is not uncommon for a man to suffer physical or emotional abuse by his partner. This can occur in both homosexual and heterosexual partnerships. When men have nowhere else to go, a men's shelter may provide the support and legal services they need to get back on their feet and leave an abusive relationship. Here are some tips to help you find a secure shelter.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. Call 911 immediately if you fear for your life. Your first instinct may be to leave your home, but you may be unable to do this safely without the intervention of law enforcement officers.
2. Have the courage to open up about your situation at home. There's nothing to be afraid or ashamed of. In fact, domestic violence directed toward men is sadly on the rise.
3. Visit the Stop Abuse for Everyone Web site for resources to help you find a men's shelter (see the Resources section below). You can search for shelters, support groups and advocates for men, based on sexual orientation or state.
4. Go to the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women Web site to find a men's shelter in your area (see Resources below). You can also call (888) 7HELPLINE for crisis intervention, support services and referrals to a victims' advocate. Note that the phone number is correct--the last two letters don't register.
5. Press charges against your abuser. No one should be victimized by a violent person, whether that person is male or female. You have the power to break your abuser's hold on you and prevent someone else from becoming a victim. A legal advocate at your men's shelter can help you file a restraining order and press charges.

Tips & Warnings

• Under the law, you have the right to be reasonably protected by law enforcement officials when you are the victim of domestic violence.
• As a male victim of domestic violence, you may be particularly susceptible to feelings of low self-esteem, anger and embarrassment. Your feelings are perfectly normal and valid, but you should seek the advice from a competent therapist to put the past behind you and begin your healing process.