How to Get Help for Domestic Violence

According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, barely 50 percent of domestic violence cases are reported to the police. If you are in an abusive relationship, take these steps to get help.

Things You'll Need

• Computer with Internet access
• Telephone

Instructions

End Domestic Violence

1. Report the violence. Contact the helpline through the NCADV (National Coalition Against Domestic Violence) at (800) 799-SAFE to receive assistance. Your conversation will remain confidential. A domestic violence counselor can do everything from helping you find a safe shelter in your area to answering your questions about the next steps to take.

2. File charges with the police. Whether you are contacting them during or after an incident, it is important to follow through on pressing charges to end the violence.

3. File for an order of protection, also known as a restraining order. You can file criminal or civil charges with a court to get the protection you need.

4. Document any bruises, verbal threats or incidents. If possible, take pictures and keep written records of violent incidents. If you seek medical treatment for your injuries, tell the doctor or nurse that they were a result of abuse. This will be notated on your records and can be used as evidence in a trial.

Heal From Domestic Violence

1. Join a support group to get through your struggle. Speaking with others who went through the same ordeal can help you heal. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence can connect you with a support group (see Resources below).

2. Consider seeking professional help from a psychologist. Search the National Register of Accredited Psychologists Web site for a professional with experience in counseling victims of domestic violence (see Resources below). One-on-one therapy can help you regain your self-esteem and avoid ever falling into a similar situation in the future.

3. Volunteer your time to a local domestic violence advocacy program. Helping others is a great way to heal, and you will likely meet many other people who care deeply about the issue of ending domestic violence. Visit the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to find groups in your area.

Tips & Warnings

• Involve your family and friends. Make others aware of the problem and they may be able to protect you or offer a place to stay while you find other lodgings.

• Learn your state laws. Some states do not classify violence as domestic if you are not married or living with your partner. Regardless of how it is classified, it is your right to press charges when violence is involved.

• Be aware of your rights as a victim of domestic violence. For instance, you have the right to know your abuser is released from jail should a conviction end in a prison sentence. Register for this notification service by calling [phone].

• Call 911 and involve the police if you are being physically attacked. It is imperative to report the incident and press charges. Typically, an abuser will not stop their patterns of abuse until they receive professional help.

• As a result of being involved in a situation of domestic violence, you may feel psychological effects ranging from depression to anxiety to rage. Don't try to deal with these emotions on your own--seek help from a counselor or support group.