How to Mourn Your Child's Death
The death of a child is usually considered the hardest type of loss to deal with. When your child dies, it can feel as if the life is sucked right out of you. It is particularly difficult when the child was young, because it seems as if his or her life was abruptly and unfairly cut short. Parents who lose a child often feel cheated that their child died before they did.
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Instructions
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Go through the grieving process and give yourself the time you need to grieve, mourn and process the loss of your precious child. The official "grieving process" unfolds in stages: shock, denial, bargaining, guilt, anger, depression, resignation, acceptance and finally hope.
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Avoid forcing yourself to go through a stage or emotion if you don't naturally feel it.
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Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling, and then express your emotions.
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Talk about your child with your spouse/partner, your other children, your parents, your siblings and friends.
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Find an appropriate outlet to express your grief over the loss of your child. Many parents like to be creative with art, writing or music.
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Do something meaningful for you-not necessarily your child-to deal with your emotions.
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Spend time grieving, mourning and remembering your child together with your partner or spouse. The death of a child can tear marriages apart, so stay close to each other without leaning too heavily. Remember that your partner has lost a child, too.
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Think of something creative, unique or special you can do to honor your child's memory.
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Seek out a professional counselor if you are unable to process your grief, if you become severely depressed or if you feel you just can't cope with life anymore.
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Tips & Warnings
Don't follow someone else's specific agenda or pace for mourning your child's death. Everyone grieves and mourns differently-even a married couple who lost a child together. Allow yourself to mourn your child's death as you need to.
Don't try to tell yourself or others that you are "done" grieving or mourning.
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I feel that people who have lost a child will always mourn that child there is no time line.
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alanandngaire
May 08, 2009
well said thank you :)
