How to Talk to a Lawyer

Feeling intimidated when you're talking to a lawyer is not uncommon. Because they are very busy, they often come across as impatient and rushed. Going to the lawyer's office completely prepared will make you look like someone who is proactive and on the ball. The lawyer will perceive you as a responsible adult who wants to have a voice in whatever's going on.

Instructions

1. Prepare a detailed outline of the information the lawyer needs to have. If there is an event such as an accident or a criminal charge, write down the details of the event. Put in as many dates and times as you can. Include the people who were present with contact information for each one if you have it. It's critical that you write down everything in chronological order so that your lawyer can see the whole picture just as it happened.

2. Stick to what is relevant to what you're dealing with. It will help your case and your image. Don't go off on tangents. This is a business meeting and you'll gain far more respect from your lawyer if you treat it like one.

3. Be brutally honest with your lawyer. Don't try to make yourself look better and the other guy look bad. Your lawyer is paid to be on your side. If you color the story a little here or there or leave out details, you will hurt your case.

4. Speak in intelligent sentences in your normal vocabulary. Speaking legalese if you really don't know how only makes you look ridiculous. Avoid swearing and excessive slang. Avoid whining and blaming.

5. Bring in whatever paperwork or information your lawyer asks for immediately. He won't be able to proceed with your case without these things.

6. Never miss an appointment without a valid reason and as much notice as possible. It is rude, and some lawyers will charge you for missed appointments without sufficient notice.

7. Ask about the costs involved in your defense. Make sure that you understand what you will be charged. Find out what a consultation visit costs. Usually you can talk to the office personnel about financial costs and arrangements.

8. Make reasonable checks on the progress of your case, but don't overdo it. Calling every day comes across as rude and demanding. Calling once a week for an update is enough. If the office personnel can give you the information, don't insist on speaking to the lawyer.

References

• UC San Diego: Tips for Talking to an Attorney