How to dump someone
Telling someone you care about that your relationship is going nowhere is heartbreaking. Finding the courage, kindness and, most of all, the right words seems nearly impossible. The act of breaking up with someone is not very complicated, but the emotions involved make it a very difficult issue to face. Once you find the courage and know what to say, it is time to sit down and have the dreaded conversation.
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Decide how to dump her. Current technology offers lots of options, such as text, email and telephone. The most considerate option is to meet face to face and tell her how you feel.
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Plan ahead. Do not just jump into the conversation at some random moment. Meet at a neutral location, such as a restaurant, and start the discussion shortly before you finish eating. If you start before the appetizer arrives, you will have a very awkward meal.
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Speak confidently, truthfully and with consideration. Tell him if there is someone else, or that you just do not feel the same way anymore. Do not use tired cliches -- such as, "It's not you, it's me," or "We'll still be friends" -- unless you really mean what you're saying. Honesty will make it easier in the long run for both of you.
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Set boundaries. If you want to see him in some capacity, tell him so; if not, tell him that, too. Whatever you decide, stick with it. If you tell him to stay away and then call him or answer the phone when he calls, you send mixed signals and make the breakup even more difficult.
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