How to Write Your Wedding Vows

So you’re getting married. Marriage is an act held highly among the events of a person’s life, so of course, you would like your wedding to be perfect. One of the most important things a person being married must do is write their vows, a task that can often be daunting for a perfectionist. This article will help you in writing your vows, and express as best as possible your love and affection toward your fiancé.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Think back to all the weddings you've attended. Try and picture—you don’t have to remember the words—the various reciting of vows that you've seen. Picture the emotions being expressed, the looks on their faces, and everything else about the spectacle.
2. Use this picture to get you started. If you can picture yourself at that emotional moment, then you can begin to gather an idea of what you’d like to say, face to face with your fiancé, in front of all your friends and family.
3. Spend a few hours, even a few days, reflecting long and hard on your relationship to your fiancé. Do this at work, around the house, and especially around your partner. Gather ideas of what you’d like to say.
4. Take an evening to write your thoughts down. It could be in any form: paragraph, free-writing, poetry, or even song lyrics. Use this as a basic outline to build off of later on.
5. Leave your outline be for awhile. Continue about your day to day life, thinking about what you've written and elaborating within your own head.
6. Come back to them when you feel ready. With a fresh set of eyes, you will be able to look over them and revise them carefully and build off of them. Start to organize them into a coherent order.

Tips & Warnings

• Seek a nice, quiet place to reflect and write. It often helps when constructing such important thoughts to be without any interference of any kind.
• Construct them in intervals, if necessary. Rather then attempting to finish them all in one sitting, leave them be periodically and come back later.
• Perhaps have a picture of your fiancé nearby. Being able to visualize them will help you to form your thoughts and express yourself about them.
• Avoid over-analyzing or second-guessing yourself excessively. Remember that you are marrying this person for a reason: the main function of a wedding is to express those reasons. Let them come to you; don’t go searching too hard for them.
• Avoid generalizations or clichés. You want your vows to be unique and original, so try not to sound like everyone else.

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