Are you ready to be an independent woman. Whether or not you are single or married you can still apply this helpful advice to become your own individual.
Things You'll Need
- Sense of self worth
- Strong will
- An open mind
- Faith in yourself
- Pen and Paper
- Supportive friend
Evaluate your current situation. Are you depending on others for the majority of your needs, or are to many others depending on you?
If you answered yes to either question you will need to take out your pen and paper and go to step 3.
Make a list of anything that you depend on someone else for. Are you constantly calling someone over to fix things in your house or apartment? Do you rely on someone else to help you with your finances? You must be as detailed as possible and list even the smallest of things that you rely on someone else for.
Next, write down the things that others depend on you for. If you have children be sure and include their needs on the list. This list should be longer than the first one in most cases. Single or married women are prone to take on more for others than they do for themselves.
This step may be the most difficult. You must compare the two lists. If the first list is the longest take the time to review it carefully. What on that list could you actually learn how to do for yourself? What would be the positive effects if you handled some of the tasks? what would be the negative outcome? Now review the second list. What are you doing for others that they are capable of doing for themselves? If you have older children decide which tasks could be delegated to them. Are you responsible for keeping up with the toys, homework, feeding the pets? Those small chores would give your child the opportunity to contribute to the household and lighten your load a little. If you are single, do friends and co-workers expect you to do more. Do they assume because you do not have a husband or children you have more free time? This is not a fair assumption. Your time is just as valuable as those with families.
This is the final step. Review your previous lists carefully and determine what new priorities you have created. You should have removed items from your first list and delegated items from your second list. If you have honestly looked at how your time is being spent both lists should now be shorter. What you have actually done is lightened your responsibilities of others and made time to learn something new for yourself.