How to Talk to Your Doctor

We need to be able to talk so doctors will listen. Our health depends on it, yet it’s difficult to do. You don’t feel well or you're worried. You're afraid to take up too much time and you feel intimidated or rushed. Sometimes you feel that you aren't taken seriously. With a little preparation you can counteract all these concerns and ensure that all your needs are addressed. Preparing for the visit will help you to look intelligent, proactive and prepared. This is how to get your doctor to listen.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Make a list of all the medications, vitamins, supplements and over-the-counter drugs you take with the frequency and doses or milligrams listed. This list is good to have with you at all times in case of injury or accident. Make sure your list is legible, accurate and complete.
   
   
2. Carry a list of your drug and food allergies at all times. Also carry a valid insurance card, a copy of your living will and any other advanced care directives. Make sure that your doctor understands your wishes about these issues. You can request that your doctor put them in your patient files to read when they are needed.
   
3. Bring a list of your physical complaints and questions. It helps to do a little general internet research on your symptoms so that you can talk intelligently, although you shouldn't try to diagnose yourself. Make your list of concerns reasonable—ask what is pertinent. You can save some of your general questions for later.
   
4. For a first visit, have all of your records and X-rays faxed or sent to your new doctor before your appointment. Take a pen and pad for writing down any directives.
   
5. When the doctor asks how you are, answer and maintain eye contact. She will see you more as an equal if you see yourself that way. Have your list out and tell her what your concerns are. Then tell her briefly what you have found out on your own.
   
6. As you converse, use "we" words rather than "I" words. This indicates that you and your doctor are partners in your health care and that you realize that you are ultimately the one responsible for maintaining your health.
   
7. After the doctor gives a diagnosis, ask questions. Ask about tests, treatments options, drugs and their side effects and interactions. If you are facing a serious problem, tell the doctor that you’d like a second opinion before you make any big decisions. A good doctor will not be threatened by this.
   
8. If you have something else to discuss, but feel that your doctor is rushing you, tell him that you know he is very busy but you need to talk about your issue. Ask if you could schedule a time to talk.
   
9. If you forget something, call the office when you get home. Let a nurse answer the question if possible. If you want the doctor to address your concern, ask for the best time call. Accept that you may have to make another appointment.
   
10. Viewing your doctor as a partner in safeguarding your health may help you overcome feelings of intimidation. Doctors are people just like you and will respond to the way you present yourself. If you want a doctor to take you seriously, make sure that you have provided all the information he needs. Be prepared to discuss your concerns intelligently. Use eye contact and present your concerns logically and in order. Treat your doctor as a respected equal and he or she will most likely treat you in the same way.