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How to Talk to Your Partner About Rekindling a Romance

By eHow Relationships & Family Editor

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Relationships are interesting things. No matter how much love you have for your partner, your relationship will have both highs and lows as time goes on. If you're finding that you want to take some steps to rekindle your romance, make sure that you talk things over with your partner.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Step1

Think about the last time you took time for just the two of you. If it's been a while, talk to your partner about it. Suggest that maybe you should make some time to get together with just the two of you, like you did when you were first going out.

Step2

Consider the last time that you dressed up for one another and went out on a date. If it's been a while since you've been out for a night on the town, talk to your partner about the memories that you share and suggest a night out to make more.

Step3

Think about bringing home a special gift for no reason other than that when you saw it, you thought about your partner. If it's been a while since you've done this, it can be an entry point for talking with your partner about rekindling a romance.

Step4

Drop hints that you'd like to go out, if you've been thinking that you need to rekindle your romance because you haven't been out for fun for a while. If a hint or two doesn't work, ask your partner why you don't go out as much anymore.

Step5

Bring up some of your favorite shared memories. Talk about how you want to go out and make more.

Tips & Warnings

It's normal for relationships to have downtime. It doesn't mean the flame has gone out, it just means that you need to take a few small steps to put the spark back into your romance.
Talking about your feelings can be difficult. Just stay calm and be honest.
Don't panic and think that some downtime in your relationship is the beginning of the end—you might be surprised by how much of a spark is still there once you talk things over and take steps to focus more on each other.

Comments

josie said

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on 8/16/2007 If you want her like a gf then ask her out, and that will be the moment you should talk about your past , I think is a crucial conversation because you don't want it to repeat. Have one day of questions and answers of all the things you always wanted to know about her life after the breakup,( the same goes for her) EVERYTHING you need to know, then erase it for ever from your mind and never bring it back . Time for forgiveness and new beginnings with no more lies.
It is just a suggestion

josie said

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on 8/16/2007 I think before going out on a "date" you should talk.My suggestion is to unblocked her and start talking. You shouldn't discuss your relationship or past.You need to be relax and get to know each other in a personal level (again).
Then plan for a get together just the two of you and after that is whatever your hearts desire. I think the key is to go very slow and You should be in control ( she won't mind at all )
She knows who you are and want you want but PLEASE you have to let her know if something is bothering you ,the same goes for her .
( to be continued...)

amandaford said

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on 8/9/2007 Good article. I really appreciate the tip about not worrying too much when your relationship has downtime. We can't always be in full-force romance mode. Even the healthiest couples experience periods of disconnect.