How to Respond When a Homosexual Friend Comes Out of the Closet

Homosexuality is a hot button for many people. Not everyone sees eye to eye when it comes to love, and many people can't understand how someone could fall in love with another person of the same gender. Whatever your position is, here are some important things to keep in mind for the moment that your friend comes out of the closet to you.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Recognize that the coming out is a sign that your friend trusts you, cares about you and wants to be honest with you.

2. Acknowledge that it takes courage to come out.

3. Carry on an honest conversation. If you have questions, ask them.

4. Talk honestly about how you're feeling.

5. Come to a point of acceptance. While initially you may feel awkward and embarrassed, you will come to recognize and accept that your friend is still the same person as always.

Tips & Warnings

• PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) is a nationwide organization for family and friends of homosexual people. If you are having trouble coming to terms with a friend's sexuality or you want to become more involved in supporting your friend, look into finding a chapter in your area. (See Resources below)
• Just because your friend has come out to you, don't assume that means your friend has feelings for you or plans to hit on you.
• Don't be judgmental.
• While many people who are homosexual use terms like “queer” and “dyke” when referring to themselves, keep in mind that it is often considered derogatory when others use them.