How to Appear More Approachable

When presenting ourselves professionally, we have some options. Do we want to appear authoritative or approachable? Well, it all depends on the situation, our role in it, and our natural style. Here are some ways to make yourself less intimidating to others.

Instructions

1. Employ "open" body language. Face people with your arms uncrossed, make eye contact and smile sincerely. Lean forward to indicate interest and attentiveness when others speak.

2. Take up less space. I'm not suggesting you slouch, just speak a little more quietly, gesture a little less, make your eye contact with each person closer to 3 seconds than 5.

3. Use fluid gestures. One that works well in public speaking is to reach towards the listener and then pull back swiftly. This subtly brings them into what you're saying.

4. Use fluid facial expressions. Try to avoid quick transitions from one expression to another.

5. Use a wide range of vocal expression. This makes you emotionally accessible and shows your humanity.

6. Elicit response verbally and non-verbally. Ask questions. Notice and respond to your listeners' expressions. Try to get them to nod to you when you're looking at them.

7. Use appropriate colloquialisms. This will work best if you know your audience. Use an appropriately professional version of the local vocabulary.

Tips & Warnings

• Remain standing as much as possible. If you sit, people may be reluctant to approach you.

• Wear lighter, softer colors, and more rounded styles (in the collar and neckline). Try separates instead of a suit and consider adding texture such as a print.

• Beware of overdoing the smile. Keep it sincere and appropriate.