How to Say Your Sorry

It may not be easy, but being able to say "I'M SORRY" can make your life better and your relationships stronger. When you find yourself in the midst of an argument, you suddenly realize both sides have made valid points and there seems to be no end in sight. You KNOW if you both could just say IM SORRY you and your fellow arguer could put the past behind you and move on.

These steps will help you get your head and heart aligned so that apologizing will no longer be an afterthought.

Things You'll Need

• Good Attitude
• Willingness to Listen
• Ability to Learn from your Mistakes

Instructions

1. 

   Recognize that your opposition has made some valid points.

   You do not have to concede and give-in but you must be willing to see the argument from both sides. Let your "partner" know this and that you understand where they are coming from.

2. Make yourself mentally prepared to utter those three difficult words: I Am Sorry.

   To do this you must know that apologizing does not mean you are wrong and the opposition is right. Instead, you are saying I care more about this relationship and do not want to continue to argue with you. Second you must not let your stubborness get the best of you. By saying you are sorry, you will catch the other arguer off guard in hopes of making them realize that they are sorry as well.

3. Say "I am Sorry"

4. Do not backtrack.

   Saying "I'm Sorry" is not going to solve the conflict so it is crucial not to go backover what the argument entailed. You obviously disagreed then and you will still disagree now. The one thing you DID AGREE ON is that you both are sorry for creating an argument and will vow not to return to the subject.

Tips & Warnings

• Suggest doing something positive after an argument with that person. This distraction will help both sides to move on and to appreciate the opposition.

• You will NEVER agree. Do not think that the longer an argument goes on, the better chance you will have a "winning" or convincing the opposition they are wrong.

• So, knowing this, DO NOT 1)Go over details 2) Re-visit the topic or 3) Continue to explain your side