How to Ask a Girl Out on a Date

Asking a girl out on a date is one of the hardest things in the world to do for some men, yet it’s also one of the things they want to do most. We’ll help you relax and take the process one step at a time so that it’s more fun (the way it should be) and less of a chore.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Introduce yourself or compliment her. There’s no reason to use cheesy lines, as most girls will see through them and immediately dismiss you. If you think a woman is pretty, compliment her. If she says something that catches your ear, mention it. Breaking the ice is as easy as letting her know what caught your attention.

2. Ask for the girl’s telephone number or email address and let her know you'd like to see her again sometime. At this point, you can even set up the date by asking her to accompany you to an event to which you have been invited.

3. Call the woman when you have a definite plan and time for the date. Reintroduce yourself and engage in a little conversation before extending the invitation.

4. Bring her into the date decision-making process. If you can get her to reveal a movie she’d like to see, you can suggest that as the focus of your date. Movies work well because they don’t require much conversation, so there are fewer awkward pauses during the date.

5. If she says no, ask if there is a scheduling conflict or if she is simply not interested in dating you. Being direct is necessary to avoid having her prolong a charade of interest. Of course, there is no guarantee that being direct will result in a truthful response, but it's better than fudging the issue.

6. Be punctual, polite, and most important, be yourself.

Tips & Warnings

• Be direct. Don’t use prepared lines; just say what’s on your mind. The ritual of dating is shrouded in half-truths and ambiguous statements. A direct approach is appreciated, as long as it’s not rude.
• If a girl refuses, don’t beg. Even if you persuade her to go on a date, it won’t be fun for either of you.