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Step 1
Let go. Realize the relationship is truly over. You cannot begin moving on until you completely give up on that person. Put your former lover completely out your system. Discard the last shred of hope that you may get back together.
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Step 2
Come to terms with the relationship. Once you have accepted that it is over, you are ready to make amends with yourself. Forgive yourself for mistakes you may have made. Quit staying up at night thinking "If I had only done..." because it doesn't matter now. The relationship is over.
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Step 3
Stay busy. Keep your mind occupied, and if you can't keep your mind occupied, keep your body occupied. Try not to be alone. Go out with friends, play sports, take up a new hobby. Try to avoid the routines you used to follow during the relationship.
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Step 4
Seek new experiences. The best way to forget the old is to embrace the new. Now is a good time to broaden your horizons. Find out for yourself that there is more to life than that one lost love.
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Step 5
Break the habit. This person may have been a large part of your life. You may have had daily rituals that involved him or her. Avoid situations that remind you of their absence. Now you have to find other activities to fill the void.
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Step 6
Find a healthy outlet. Write in your journal or talk with friends. Get out all those nasty feelings: They are easier to deal with when they are on the table rather than pent up inside.
Comments
ammmmzzz said
on 12/21/2009 Me and person 1 used to be best mates and really close, then we both moved up to high school and we're still best mates for a couple of months, then i met person 2, we were close and before i knew it she was also my best friend, person 1 got a bit jealous and then told lies about me to person 2, person 2 started to belive her and hated me, then those two were best mates and completly ditched me, then i got angry with them for my two best mates leaving me and running off together and started to lies aswell, we all got upset and person 1 and 2 hated me , we argued but then me and person 2 made up, now person 1 didnt like us making up and started the lies all over again! now person 2 has decided to end it between us. and is really annoyed with me for not leaving me alone and just wants me to let go but i just dont want to let go , we have had such good memories,and to be honest in our ...
wreckchords said
on 10/19/2009 I would just like to say thanks to all of you who have submitted your experiences, thoughts and feelings. Reading over all of these comments is comforting and makes me feel like I'm not so alone. Thank you.
justin3000 said
on 10/8/2009 I was dating a woman for only a few months but I felt like I have known her my whole life, well her ex decided to move back from Alberta and wanted to start things over with her, so I received the call from her the other day explaining everything. I told her I was glad that she was being honest but it still hurts to let her going even though we where only dating a couple months..
deltaforce said
on 9/3/2009 We will all heal, those people we loved are no longer loveable. A person who loves us will not leave us and will not hurt and betray us. No matter who we are we deserve better. We wouldn't accept this for our loved ones and we sure the hell shouldn't accept this pain and abuse for ourselves. Self love and the realization that this was a sign we deserve more is the only way to look at it and unfortunately time is the only true answer, but it is the answer and we will feel better eventually.. we'll make it!
jfargo said
on 8/5/2009 Good tips. I just wish so many folks didn't need them...5*