How to Uncover the 'I Don't' Before You Say 'I Do'
How much do you really know about your partner? If you're serious I recommend you read my steps below!
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Things You'll Need
- Honesty
- The ability to make the tough decision
- Feet planted firmly in Reality
Instructions
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Before you consider accepting a job offer you thoroughly research the company's performance. You have a list of things you must have, won't accept, and others you're willing to compromise. If it isn't a win-win for both sides, you have a written contract that states it will become the job of your dreams, or you walk away.
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Have you performed the same due-diligence regarding your potential spouse? Marriage is a long-term contract that you must review thoroughly before you sign that license.
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Now that you know this person is the One, it's time to begin the Interview process. You have noticed a few idiosyncrasies that you thought were cute but can you deal with them for the rest of your life?
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Do Not Think You Can Change A Person, You Can't. Do you think your mate can change You? Here's where reality kicks in!
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Create a list of at least 10 questions you both must answer honestly. There are no right or wrong answers simply express how you truly feel.
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The list should include:
- How do you feel about kids?
- How do you feel about disciplining the kids?
- How do you feel if I make more money than you?
- What's your definition of a husband's role?
- What's your definition of a wife's role?
- How do feel about religion?
- How do you treat your family?
- Do you have any problems with alcohol, drugs, or domestic violence?
- Are you in debt, if so how much?
- Do you have a criminal record, if so what was the charge? Have you made restitution? -
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When it's time for the Interview ambiance is important! Find a private not public place where it's just the two of you. No distractions.
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The purpose of the Interview is to determine how compatible you are. Can you handle the truth? If there are too many red flags don't ignore them! It's better to know now than locked into a relationship that's a lose-lose for both sides.
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Tips & Warnings
I wouldn't recommend performing the Interview in the early stages of the romance....why expose so much of yourself if the person isn't worth your time.
