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How to Decline a Written Invitation

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The formality of the event dictates the formality of your regrets.

Difficulty: Easy
Instructions

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  1. Step 1

    Read the invitation carefully. It should give specific instructions regarding a correct response. If it says R.S.V.P, a response is expected whether you plan to attend or not. If it says "regrets only," reply only if you are not planning to attend.

  2. Step 2

    Respond as directed. A written invitation is a rare thing these days and is usually used only for weddings, state occasions or some such affair for which a headcount is critical.

  3. Step 3

    Fill out the response card, if one is included, and send it in as soon as possible in the enclosed envelope.

  4. Step 4

    Send your personal regrets. If you have printed stationery, send a handwritten note. The note might read, "I regret that I will not be attending the dinner party, as I must be out of town."

  5. Step 5

    Keep in mind that your response to a baby- or wedding-shower invitation or to other casual events may be done over the telephone. Contact the person listed on the invitation.

Tips & Warnings
  • You don't have to offer an excuse if you don't care to. Simply say that you regret you cannot attend.

Comments  

Chaos1187 said

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on 5/31/2009 It shows class to make an effort, thank you for the advice :)

carole7777 said

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on 4/30/2009 Is a gift required if one cannot attend?

ecm1980 said

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on 4/26/2009 Good Tips! I will be remembering all of that.

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on 8/22/2007 Good tip. Gotta respond people, don't be ghetto.

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