Make a list of all the things you like about your kitchen, then make a second list of everything you hate.
Step2
Make a list of all the things you dream of having, based on all the kitchens you've ever seen, and then make that second list, too.
Step3
Put the like and hate lists together, and be prepared to keep adding and subtracting.
Step4
Research, research, research. Educate yourself by reading magazines, visiting showrooms, watching all those shows on television, and talking with friends who've done it.
Step5
Dream large, as it will be easier and cheaper to make changes on paper before you sign any contracts.
Step6
Combine your aesthetic requirements with your practical ones, but keep the practical elements in the foreground. After the first blush of excitement, you won't care how pretty the kitchen is if it's difficult to use.
Step7
Take the future into account. Children coming? Children going? Are you getting on in years?
Step8
Visitors often gravitate to the kitchen, so do you want them nearby and able to help, or out of the way but still able to chat? Or so uncomfortable they'll never come in the room again?
Step9
Consider the traffic patterns into and out of the room.
Step10
Take into account any special needs, such as handicap and assisted access, children who do homework in the room, and sides of moose and canned rhubarb to store.