How to Choose a Bar or Bat Mitzvah Gift for Your Child

A bar or bat mitzvah is an important occasion in the life of a Jewish adolescent, and it's important to get your child a special and meaningful gift to commemorate the event.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Gift Ribbons
• Tissue Paper
• Jewish Traditions Books
• Gift Cards
• Cellophane Gift Wrap
• Gift Bags
• Gift Bows
• Wrapping Paper
• Kiddish Cups
• Kiddush Cup/wine Goblet
• Fountain Pens
• Stationery
• Tissue paper

1. Remember that this is a transitional moment - becoming b'nai mitzvah is one of the rites of passage marking the closure of childhood. Try to find a gift that symbolizes this entry into the first stages of adulthood, if possible.

2. Think about your child's tastes and temperament. While some children may enjoy traditional objects or family heirlooms, others may prefer something trendier or more modern.

3. Consider a gift with spiritual significance, perhaps an engraved kiddush cup, an embroidered prayer shawl or a handcrafted mezuzah. You may choose to make this just one part of your gift to your child, given in combination with a more secular present.

4. Select a gift that your child will enjoy, and remember that it doesn't have to be connected to the religious occasion. You may prefer to give your child a bar or bat mitzvah gift related to a specific hobby or interest.

5. Write a special card or meaningful letter to go with the gift. It's a great way to let your child know how proud you are of him or her, and to talk about some of the hopes and dreams you have for your future as a family.

Tips & Warnings

• As well as giving a gift to your child, consider making a donation in his or her name to your favorite Jewish charity. This will remind your child that it's important to give as well as to receive, and may help to reinforce his or her sense of personal and social responsibility.