How to Create a Will in a Gay/Lesbian Relationship

Without the legal benefits of traditional marriage, people in same-sex relationships need to create legal documents to protect their rights in case of an unexpected illness or death.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. Make a list of all your possessions that have significant monetary or sentimental value. It's a good idea to do this with your partner.

2. Divide the items into three sections: those that belong to you, those that belong to your partner, and those that you own together.

3. Decide what will happen to all the items if one or both of you should die.

4. Specify who you want to take care of your children and pets, if you have any.

5. Think about who you want to name as your decision-maker. This person may have to make health and financial decisions for you, as well as ensure that your wishes are carried out after you die. It can be anyone - your partner, a family member, or a friend. Also designate an alternate, just in case.

6. Put everything in writing as specifically as possible.

7. Take this information to an attorney. Or, if you're up to the challenge, prepare your own documents and get them properly signed and notarized.

Tips & Warnings

• It's a good idea to personally inform your family and friends about your decisions so that your wishes will not be a surprise to anyone should you pass away.
• To find a gay-friendly lawyer, ask around. Call a local gay and/or lesbian organization and get referrals. Also, see Related eHows for advice on how to find a lawyer who's familiar with gay/lesbian issues.
• In order for your will to be considered a valid legal document, the following requirements must be met: it must be typed, it must state that it's your will, and it must be signed and dated.
• This information is not intended as a substitute for personalized advice from a knowledgeable lawyer licensed to practice law in your state. For specific, up-to-date advice geared to your specific situation, consult an expert.