How to Refuse to Do an Inappropriate Task for Your Boss
These days, it's rare to find a job free from the burden of office politics. If the only problems you encounter are with fellow employees, count yourself among the lucky. But if your boss asks you to do an inappropriate task, you may need this advice.
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Instructions
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Consider your response carefully, and no matter what avenue you decide to take, be tactful and polite.
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Restate the obvious when your boss asks you to do an inappropriate task. For example, "You mean you want me to do your personal work?"
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Declare your feelings. Tell your boss you feel uncomfortable in this situation and give him or her the chance to make things right.
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Find a way to imply that your boss should perform the task personally. For example, if you are asked to shop for your boss' spouse, you could say, "I know how much my wife appreciates the effort I put into picking out a gift for her."
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Get others involved as a last resort. Speak to your boss' superiors or the human resource department, if this option is available.
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Tips & Warnings
Keep in mind that if the nature of the inappropriate task is sexual, it's illegal. Seek professional help immediately from a lawyer or even the labor board.
Know your rights as an employee. These rights include a safe working environment, freedom from discrimination and sexual harassment, and the right to speak freely regarding illegal or inappropriate behavior by your employer.
Consider looking for another job. An employer who would put you in an awkward position obviously does not respect you or your rights as an individual.
Don't anger your employer unless you have other options available. Your boss could make your work days seriously uncomfortable or even conjure up grounds to fire you.
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acsniece
Nov 06, 2009
Keep careful records of dates, times, people, and exact words. They squirm when you write things down, lol! If they're not doing anything wrong, they have nothing to fear, right? I was asked by a bully of a boss why I do this, and I told her "It's for my personal records". I resisted the temptation to say, "It's to protect myself from people like you." -
chava812
Dec 01, 2008
Another thought is to find a mentor where you work - someone whom you admire - and ask for their advice. In the interim, put off a final response until you've had time to get this advice (just don't make it obvious what you're doing or give the idea you are agreeing).
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chava812
Dec 01, 2008
Another thought is to find a mentor where you work - someone whom you admire - and ask for their advice. In the interim, put off a final response until you've had time to get this advice (just don't make it obvious what you're doing or give the idea you are agreeing).
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Cherrie
Nov 13, 2008
If it is serious, quit and God will help. To go on a slippery road harms you unforgettable because you have lost self respect, the worst you can do. I speak of experiences, you know the strength of the other side, but the One in your heart is always stronger. Just have faith, neither fear nor worries. Life has always required bravery, nothing new, and God helps good parents and good children.
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Cherrie
Nov 13, 2008
If it is serious, quit and God will help. To go on a slippery road harms you unforgettable because you have lost self respect, the worst you can do. I speak of experiences, you know the strength of the other side, but the One in your heart is always stronger. Just have faith, neither fear nor worries. Life has always required bravery, nothing new, and God helps good parents and good children.
