Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Things You’ll Need:
Step1
Do your research ahead of time to know what to expect as a foreign woman traveling in the country you will be visiting. Your research should include appropriate clothing for women, culturally appropriate behavior between men and women, and places women may be restricted from entering.
Step2
Study interactions between local men and women for appropriate nonverbal ways for interacting: Do men and women who are strangers make eye contact when speaking? Are outsiders treated differently than friends or acquaintances? How far apart do women and men sit or stand from one another when conversing?
Step3
Watch how local women avoid advances from men and follow their cues. If shooing a man away or turning abruptly away appears to shame and dissuade a pursuer, be prepared to use these gestures yourself.
Step4
Be assertive when saying, "No," to unwanted advances, making certain that everything in gesture and demeanor indicates "No": speak loudly so that others will hear you; turn away or cross your arms firmly in front of you; be prepared to leave the venue or join others for protection.
Step5
Look to nearby women for help, especially older women who may feel protective of you. A specific appeal to a woman, such as a shopkeeper, will likely be more effective at shooing away unwanted solicitors than a general appeal to a crowd of women.
Step6
Familiarize yourself with how to find local police, proprietors of stores or conductors on trains, and appeal to such authority figures for help if harassment is persistent.
Comments
Anonymous said
on 11/22/2005 If you're walking alone, especially in the evening and are afraid because a man/men are walking towards you or behind you, think "Don't mess with me" (or something more obscene) over and over again. It will give you some strong energy. If you want to try something even better, actually SAY it to yourself. Basically, the man/men will most likely walk by you while you mutter to yourself and he'll be scared that you'll do something to him because you will seem insane. My good friend shared this with me years ago and I have used it many times. Once I was pretty scared and actually muttered the words and the guy who was walking straight towards me looked a bit creeped out, and then looked away and walked away.
If you're abroad, then try a different phrase (whatever works for you in the foreign language). Make sure it's translated properly.
Another one is to imagine that the guy is one inch tall. Look at his feet when he's walking and imagine he's tiny or look at his head and see it's the size of a battery. This one really works for getting your strength up.